Zanzibar, June 2016

Last night in  Zanzibar. Last night of our large conference. It's gotten late, and only a scattered group of my colleagues and some of the event's participants are left at the dinner tables near the pool side, overlooking the sea. The band is playing something more upbeat, we all start dancing. One of the quite senior, very well respected participants takes the microphone and sings a capella. We have all had a few drinks already. After this, the band starts to pack up. We are disappointed, and with all our charms, convince them to continue. Now they really turn on the heat, we shake everything we got, our group is as diverse as our dance styles, originating from Kenya, Morocco, Cameroon, Madagascar, Germany and so on. After 3 songs, we request yet another encore, and they play "Hakuna Matata", which we have all learned is the "inofficial national anthem". We dance in a circle , pairs of 2 people move to the center and have hip shaking competitions. When the music is finished for good, some of us just look at each other, remove our watches, and with a running start, jump into the pool. One after the other, people join us in the water, each displaying their personal jumping style, under lots of splashing, laughing and cheering. The music continues in the pool as we start singing. As we get cold, we come out of the pool, and give big, hearty hugs to the only one of us who hadn't jumped, making sure he gets properly wet after all.

Beijing, China, March 2016

Homesick

“Homesick…cuz I no longer know…where home is…”

Fantastic – switching on a random playlist, this is exactly the song to lift me up, as I am lying on the bed in a hotel room like a million others, somewhere in a city in China.

I vaguely remember that song and the feeling of melancholy, right in the heart, that it used to cause me at some point….and trying to see through the mist in my memory – when was that? I guess I have just been away from home and anything familiar one too many times, I can’t remember when the realization that “I no longer know where home is” still pinched in a way that it hurt noticeably. Now, that realization is just a faint echo of a pain that has lost its sharpness. I am reaching a point where I stop wondering where home is.

Kings of Convenience - "Homesick"

Connected

It is rare to meet someone from North Korea – one of the reasons why I was curious about this workshop in Beijing, to which a North Korean delegation had been invited. Amongst them was a young woman, around my age. I thought about her a lot throughout the week. What is it like to be her, in a country where people get brainwashed from birth on, and have little contact with the outside world? Was this her first time abroad? What went on in her mind, and to what extent did the exposure to more “international”, more liberal ideas and concepts in the workshop trigger new, forbidden thoughts? Here we were together in that hotel for a few days, her and I, our paths briefly crossing, where our lives, our opportunities, our aspirations and thoughts so far must have been vastly different.

I would have done a lot for a chance to connect with her, but it was hard to find an opportunity. At the beginning of the week, the 6 North Koreans moved around as a solid block, and quickly disappeared after each meal. They seemed to never smile. On the last evening, however, they had apparently warmed up a bit. I saw the young woman standing in the lobby. She said something to her colleagues, raised her arms as if to reach for something, smiling. That image will stay in mind.

The morning after the workshop, I entered the hotel and met the North Koreans one more time, as they were about to head to the airport. The young woman and I exchanged a few sentences; she thanked me for my role in the workshop – a connection, even if a brief one, in the end.